Wednesday, August 26, 2009

Happy Birthday -- Click Here

Today is Vicy's 40th birthday. I hate her because in the years I've known her, she still looks 33 and I look 41. Vicy doesn't want anything for her birthday except for people to go to this website and click on the Intel Will Donate 25 cents for you button.
I want Vicy to have a nice birthday.
So, click here: http://www.smallthingschallenge.com/. Give Vicy a nice birthday.
Happy Birthday, Vicy -- I hope it is a wonderful one -- and I clicked for you!

Oh, one last thing, down with J.B. Van Hollen. The man should not be our Attorney General if he doesn't want to defend our laws. I said I'd mention him every single day and I meant it.

God Bless

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Saturday, August 22, 2009

Recall Wisconsin Attorney General J. B. Van Hollen

Apparently, Wisconsin Attorney General J. B. Van Hollen doesn't understand just what his job is, nor does he understand what his duty to the citizens of Wisconsin is.

Attorney General J.B. Van Hollen doesn't want to defend the laws of this great state. He has decided that he isn't going to defend the domestic partnership law. He expects the state to pay for an outside attorney at $175.00 per hour. Isn't that why we pay him?!?

Wisconsin Attorney General J. B. Van Hollen doesn't stand up for Wisconsin Laws.

I want this man gone from office and if we don't recall him, then we have to vote for the other guy. Van Hollen stands for what is wrong with the Republican Party -- they have all completely lost their minds. Defend the law, you self-righteous jerk. If we don't recall you, I promise by all that is right and holy that you won't be our Attorney General after the 2010 election. It's time we take back our country from those who only seek to destroy it with placing their personal views higher than the good of our fellow men and women.

Who's with me?

God Bless

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Tuesday, August 18, 2009

Domesticated Bliss

Yesterday, at around 1:30 PM, Cheryl and I, along with my parents and our good friend, Jerri and Preston, walked into the Racine County Courthouse and registered for domestic partnership. There's a five day waiting period, so next week, we have to go back and file the paperwork with the County Clerk's office. Some of our friends and family members read about this yesterday on our facebook pages. Some of our friends have asked what all this entails and I thought I should post a brief outline of our rights.
  • Inheritance and Survivor Protections
  • Family and Medical Leave
  • Medical, Hospital and Visitation Rights
  • Prevention of one Partner from testifying against another Partner
  • Transfer of real estate and car and boat titles are exempt from fees.

There are 43 state rights / protections granted to domestic partnerships, as opposed to the 200 protections offered by marriage.

Just thought I'd fill you in.

God Bless

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Sunday, August 16, 2009

Well, people, this is it. Tomorrow is the BIG DAY!!! After 13 1/2 years of being together that includes 8 years of being a married couple in the eyes of God, family and friends, Cheryl and I will be getting domesticated! I'm not sure what to call it. Anyway, domestic partnership here we come. At 1:30 tomorrow afternoon, we will be at the Courthouse with my parents and two of our friends - Jerri and Preston - and we'll be signing the papers.

Yep, after all this time together, Cheryl is finally going to domesticate me. I guess this means that I'll be housebroken! LOL!

Seriously, it reinforces our love and commitment to each other, it gives us some legal protections and it helps us to stand up and be counted in the number of domesticated gay relationships.

Now, I called the courthouse on Friday and it turns out that there is a five day waiting period, so we'll have to go back to register the paperwork. Five day waiting period? She's had 13 years to change her mind and she's still here, whats another five days?

God Bless

I was going to post a picture from our wedding day, but I can't find it and my scanner is no longer functioning, so here's a picture of us from a few years ago.



Isn't Cheryl the prettiest gal around?

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Friday, July 31, 2009

Heartless, Hypocritical Bastards

Those so-called "family" groups are at it again. No sooner had the ink dried on the state budget, which includes Domestic Partner benefits, than 3 board members of various "family" groups had their lawyers file to fight it in court.
Look you rotten bastards, you won the big fight -- we can't get married and we can't have civil unions in Wisconsin. At least give us the very small protections Domestic Partnerships give us. And, if I sound angry, I am. I'm sick and tired of a group of people who don't know me spending their time and effort to make my life miserable. They wanted the anti-gay amendment and they got it. And, how did they get it, buy making it a two part question, where the answer was yes if you DIDN'T support equal rights for gays. Do you know how many of my straight friends called me up and said, "Isn't it great, you and Cheryl can get married now. We voted yes and it passed." I apparently didn't explain it to them in easy enough terms for them to understand that a yes vote meant we COULDN'T get married.
Now, we're just getting basic protections: the right to inherit, the right to hospital visitations, the right to sue for wrongful death, etc. We're not getting the right to file joint tax returns. We're not getting the other 1300 rights that married couples enjoy in this country.
And, these bastards are hypocrites on top of it all. They don't believe in legistlating from the bench, but they want a judge to throw out a law signed by our governor. Sounds like an activist judge decision to me.
I have a question. If Cheryl gets seriously ill and can no longer make decisions for herself, are these bastards going to step in then and make the decision I cannot legally make until the domestic partner benefits kick in on August 3rd? Are they going to stop her life support or stop treatment when there's no hope? Oh, of course not, these are the kinds of bastards -- in a general sense -- that believe in the so-called right to life, which means they don't believe anyone should ever die.
God Bless the Gay People for we give the phony family groups something to do.

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Thursday, February 19, 2009

Thank you, Governor Doyle

Let's face it when the Republicans ran the Wisconsin State Legistlature, nothing good came of it -- and, yes, Cathy Stepp, I'm talking to you. Best thing to happen to Wisconsin politics was when she decided NOT to run for State Senator again to spend more time with her family.
Worst thing to happen to Wisconsin was that stupid anti-gay amendment. Yes, friends, that's what we can thank our state Republicans for -- an amendment to our state consitution to outlaw gay marriages and civil unions. But, did it attract one job to our state?
No, it didn't. And, all it did was place us in the same boat as those other states that voted for their stupid amendments -- we look like backward morons.
But, thanks to Governor Doyle, we can once again take pride in our great state. He is calling for a Domestic partnership registry -- he wants to make sure that no gay person is ever bared from a loved one's hospital room. He wants to make sure that no gay person has to chose between losing their job and being by their soulmate's side when the end is near. Thank God for Governor Doyle!
Last year, my mother-in-law passed away and I was heartbroken, but thanks to my very understanding employer, they allowed me to work from the hotel where we were staying to be by herside. They allowed me to work off hours, so I could spend the day supporting Cheryl and Mom in their time of need. But, a lot of employers wouldn't allow that. But, they would for a straight couple. And, that, friends, is one of the reasons we need equality in marriage for all, not just those that fit some mold.
God Bless

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Thursday, August 21, 2008

Marriage Rights

So, I'm on the phone with my mother and I mention that Cheryl needs to pick up one of her prescriptions that costs $50.00. My mom says why does it cost so much and I explain that Cheryl's insurance doesn't cover this particular drug at which point my mother says, "Why isn't she on your insurance?" This I find humorous because my mother wrongly assumes since I make more money and work for a larger company that I have better insurance, which is not the case.

So, I explain to my mom that my company doesn't offer domestic partner benefits -- and she asks me why not -- and even if it did, we wouldn't use them. Which leads me to the reason for this column.

My mom goes back and forth on gay marriage. On one hand, she doesn't understand why gay people would want to get married. Afterall, if straight people can't get marriage right (i.e., the 50% divorce rate), what makes gay people think they can? Then, she thinks that there isn't any benefit to gay marriage. In her mind, if Cheryl and I separate, everything's much easier because one of us can just move out. But, it isn't easier and thanks to that stupid amendment, a court wouldn't hear our case against one another.

It is with my mother in mind that I write this column.

  • Domestic Partner Benefits: These are a wonderful idea. It is a way for one gay person to cover their spouse. And, actually, this covers unmarried straight people, as well, which I don't agree it should. If you want these rights, get married and get them. But, gay or straight, the same problem remains: The Federal Government taxes the benefit as income. So, if your employer pays $100 a month for your partner's healthcare, that's added into your salary for the government to tax. When you think about it, this is really crazy because if you cover your uninsured partner this way, it means the government isn't doing it.
  • Social Security: My social security benefits will be higher than Cheryl's and she will never be able to claim them. Ever. On the marriage side of this, if a man marries four women, stays married to each one of them for 11 years, all four women are entitled to one half of his social security. And this NEVER reduces his payout. Does that seem fair and just?
  • Health Issues: If Cheryl goes into the hospital and is unable to make decisions for herself, I do not have an automatic legal right to make decisions for her. I do have a Power of Attorney of Health, which is only valid in Wisconsin. If we're on vacation in another state, there's no guarantee that a hospital in another state would honor it. This doesn’t happen to a married couple.

These are just three main reasons why gay people want the right to marry. There are hundreds more and I'm sure I'll write about them from time to time.

God Bless

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